Goodbye 2017! Hello 2018!

And just like that, at the stroke of midnight, we said goodbye to 2017.

As I reflect back on my 36th year of my life, I’m extremely grateful.

2017 brought some unexpected twists and turns.

2017 was weird, challenging, tragic and an eye-opener.

The dynamics of the world changed & the world was struck with so many tragic events & natural disasters.

The highlights of my 2017….

. I started the first month off with a visit from Robin & Hailey & Lou who were here in TX on my birthday and our team celebrated the victorious comeback we made in 2016

.. In March, Ryan, Haylie, Rebel & I spent 6 days in Los Angeles together with friends. I got to see Rebel’s excitement, on his first commercial flight and together we had the most incredible time at the Tony Robbins event Unleash the Power Within. It was an experience I’ll never forget.

… In April Ryan & I celebrated our 8th anniversary in Honolulu, Hawaii, something we’d been dreaming of for years. I rode in a helicopter for the first time in my life & was able to check that off my bucket list.

…. 2 weeks after returning from Hawaii, I was able to take my family on our first family trip outside of the 🇺🇸 to Punta Cana. We snorkeled and swam with sharks 🦈 and stingrays.

….. in May, I celebrated my BFF ‘Manda’s birthday and 13 years of friendship 💜💕, had the honor and privilege of being selected for The Shift Shop Coach Test Group 2017 and then got to spend a whole week with my best friend, coach and mentor Becky in Miami and then attended EntreLeadership for the first time in Orlando.

…… in July, Rebel & I drove to New Orleans, Louisiana to attend my 5th “Summit” our annual coach meetup and got to spend several days with Hailey and The RELENTLESS Squad. Rebel got to see me recognized on stage in front of tens of thousands of coaches and making him proud was the best feeling ever! 💙 Later that month Ryan went to Unleash The Power Within – in New York, which proved to be something that had a great impact on our family and marriage.

…… this summer I finally decided to write a book about my life. I shouted it out to the Universe and got started on it. It’s scary to commit to something like that, but 2018 my word is FINISH. So I WILL finish it!

……. in August I took a trip solo to visit Lou in Charlotte, North Carolina for Labor Day weekend where I spent 6 days just relaxing and learning to let go of my workaholic ways & came back feeling centered and more in balance.

……… in September we celebrated my firstborn Haylie’s 18th birthday. It was purely emotional. The fact that she’s half my age and that 18 years flew by as fast as it has was so surreal. We spent the day jumping out of an airplane together (her, Ryan and I), which was symbolic on so many levels.

……… I took a position with a local company Brenham Kitchens which has given me the opportunity to get out of the house and meet new people 4-6 times a month and it’s been a fun experience for Rebel and I!

………. in October after being chosen to be part of the 80 Day Obsession Test Group, I successfully completed the 13-Week program and learned so much about myself, nutrition, my own capabilities and discovered a lot about some of the health issues I was facing.

………… in November, I attended my 5th Leadership Retreat, which was fully paid for by Beachbody based on my level of commitment and hard work and stayed at the ARIA Resort & Casino & had an incredible time with the leaders who had also qualified to attend.

………… I survived my 2nd birthday, a trip to my favorite party city (NOLA), my 3rd holiday season and faced lots of challenging & frustrating experiences & learned to attend events where alcohol was present and remained 100% SOBER! I celebrated my 798th day of sobriety on 12/31/17.

In 2017, I traveled a lot. I spent a lot of alone time doing soul searching. I reconnected with my husband as we rediscovered one another, as I became more comfortable with my sobriety. I learned to lean in, instead of avoiding uncomfortable feelings and situations. I learned to cope without alcohol and find peace with who I truly am. I learned how to let go of the things I could not and had no right to control. I learned how to ask for & accept help. I learned to say no when I needed to take care of me. I learned to face my fears. I learned to say yes to the people and things that served me. I learned how to let my guard down and give more love to receive love. I learned to stop chasing shiny things. I learned how to put myself first, my family second and my work/business third. I learned to accept that there is a higher power and discovered my spiritual side. I learned to forgive those who did the best with what they knew and had to give even if their actions caused me pain at once. I learned how to stop trying to fix things for people who didn’t ask for help. I learned so much about myself in 2017 and I know I wouldn’t have made the process I did had I not chosen to get sober on

10/25/15.

🎆 HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎆

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Happy Sober Anniversary to Me!

I will never forget my sobriety date: October 25th.
Why? Because it’s my husbands birthday.

Today he celebrates his 41st birthday and today I celebrate the greatest gift I could have given him, our marriage, our family and our future – MY SOBRIETY!

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When I decided to get sober I was scared.
I was scared that people would laugh at me, abandon me, think I was a sell out to my old lifestyle and that I’d be all alone in my battle against my addiction.

It turns out that I was wrong. DEAD WRONG.

I have had nothing but support from old friends and lots of new friends.

Let’s just say that the sober community is a lot more supportive than party friends.

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I walked outside earlier to find a delivery 📦 box. I opened it up and found this gorgeous bouquet and a loving message from my dearest friend Jennifer. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️


My best friend, sober sister and business partner, Melissa, posted this amazing picture of us from last October when she was 30 days sober and we were attending an event in Coronado Bay, together SOBER for the first time, along with this sweet message. 

“Sober people are boring.

Sober people are lame.

Sober people get left out.

Thoughts we both shared.

Fears we both shared.

When I “met” Mindy Hord in 2013, I was instantly drawn to her party girl nature. She had a tagline about being fit and drinking beer…. Hello, I loved beer, I needed to be fit…. it was genius to me!

I got to know her through the Internet… And we’ve become the best of friends… Two years ago today she made a decision that would not only impact her life but her children’s as well… I’ve always been inspired by her strength and knew that this woman could do anything that she said her mind to… The road to Sobriety can sometimes be lonely… She was one of the first people I called when I made the decision to get sober…. I watched her for a whole year and thought how STRONG she was…..she had been there for many conversations about me quitting drinking before but I never got serious about it… Shes work hard on finding her way, I’ve seen her grow in ways she may not even realize…..She’s been a friend, a sister, A mentor, and a pillar of hope on my journey….I’m honored to know her, to share so many incredible milestones and memories with her that we remember and don’t have to delete any sloppy pictures … I’m proud to say we aren’t boring at all! How lucky are we to have such a special friendship that empowers one another to be our absolute BEST!

Next week we will meet in Las Vegas… AKA in City and be toasting our sparkling waters to the success of our teams and celebrating huge milestones in our sobriety… Congrats my friend I am beyond proud of you two years is MAJOR!!!

You continue to empower others to make changes in their lives just by being your authentic RELENTLESS self.”

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Today marks 2 years since I decided to break up with alcohol.

I grew up in a household where alcohol was always present. We had a liquor cabinet in our house. My Mom always drank wine. My paternal grandparents had a liquor cabinet and always brought alcohol on every trip they took me on. My grandpa brewed his own beer. My parents and grandparents loved visiting wineries & going on wine tastings… living in the wine country in Northern California it was normal. I remember alcohol being ordered every time we ate out. I remember finding alcohol stashed in the medicine cabinet of my maternal grandma. I remember my dad always joking that it was 🍺 Beer:30. I remember my Mom making wine coolers & letting me taste it. I remember taking sips off of my grandpas’ beer. Yet I don’t remember seeing any of them “drunk”, but I distinctly remember the times when I knew they had “had too much”.

I think back on all of the times I drank and drank to excess in front of my kids and wonder how it’ll affect them in the long run. All I know is that they were monumental in my decision to get sober.

 

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Today is day 731 of my sobriety journey…
I can’t believe it’s been exactly 2 years since I declared my DECISION to get 100% sober.
It was a decision that I had put a lot of thought into.
But, I had put more thought into talking myself out of it.
I was so comfortable being numb. 
It was terrifying to let go of a security blanket I had been holding on to since I was a teenager.
I started drinking REGULARLY at age 15 when I left home on December 2, 1996. 20 years later on October 25, 2017, I finally parted ways with the most toxic and longest relationship I had maintained.

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Teen drinking is very bad.
It’s just a start to a lifetime of bad habits.
Luckily, my children don’t want to have a relationship with alcohol or drugs after hearing my story and being affected by my poor choices.
Although I’m not proud of my past or my mistakes, I’d gladly do it all over again if it meant that I’d deal with the pain and regret to shield my kids from making the same bad decisions.

 

As I was going through old pictures this week, I found all of these old pictures that represent the old me. I am wearing a fake smile in many. I may appear awake, but I was dead inside. I was there in body, but totally not present. I appeared to be the life of the party, but I was totally numb.

Around 1-2 a.m. on this day, 2 years ago, after HOURS of drinking and countless beers, several bottles of Grey Goose and whiskey, I was leaving a club in Miami, totally incoherent, totally sloppy drunk. I still don’t remember having anything that happened past midnight that night.

After a few hours of sleep, I woke up, feeling brain dead and made the declaration of my need to get sober. I shouted it out to the universe to make it real and held myself publicly accountable because it wasn’t the first time I had said I was going to get sober.

October has always been a memorable and monumental month for me.

On October 20, 1981, I entered the United States of America for the first time. On the 21st, I was handed over to strangers. On the 22nd, I was brought into a new house, that I was to call “home”.

On October 23, 2008, I was proposed to for the first time and agreed to marry my best friend who’s birthday was 2 days later and agreed to become officially “step-mom” to Hunter who’s birthday was on the 24th.

So now October 25 has become extra special. It’s not only the day the love of my life was born but today it marks TWO YEARS of SOBRIETY.

731 days of fighting old habits, old behaviors, old routines, old addictions.
731 days of celebrations. Every day I found something to celebrate and focused on the things I COULD do that I never did or couldn’t or wouldn’t do if I had still been drinking.
731 days of inner struggles.
731 days being counted one day at a time.
731 days of learning who the REAL Mindy Hord is.
731 days of CLARITY.
731 days of MINIMAL “arguments” with Ryan.
731 days of being FULLY present.

Turns out I am fun. Turns out I don’t need to have a drink to have fun. Turns out I can say no to social gatherings I don’t wanna attend vs getting buzzed in order for me to go. Turns out there are more sober people than I ever knew existed because I used to avoid people like “that”. They made me feel uncomfortable. I didn’t understand them and didn’t want to. Turns out a once party girl, can turn her whole life around and inspire others to choose to look at alcohol differently and even start their own sobriety journey!

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From 🍺 booze-hound to 💦 happy & hydrated in 725 days!

7 2 6 Days

1 year

11 months

3 weeks

4 days

103 weeks + 5 days

62,726,400 seconds

1,045,440 minutes

17,424 hours

………………………. since I took my last sip of alcohol!

It’s funny how you outgrow what you once thought you couldn’t live without.

It’s funny how you don’t miss what once was part of your identity.

It’s funny how you can get A D D I C T E D to the feeling of having your SHIT TOGETHER!

It’s funny how I used to be a bad influence. I was the instigator. It’s funny how I used to be THE PARTY GIRL! I was the WILD CHILD! It’s funny how I used to be the person who made fun of sober people because they made me feel uncomfortable. I was an instigator and feared those who I felt were judging me

It’s funny how I’m now an advocate for SOBRIETY. It’s funny how no one has ever tried to make me feel uncomfortable like I used to do to others.

It’s funny how I’m still fun & haven’t lost my wild side. Turns out I didn’t need alcohol to be me.

It’s funny how my priorities have changed, my social circle, my interests and the way I live have changed. It’s funny how much my life has changed as I’ve come to accept the real me and learned how to navigate through my emotions.

From 🍺 booze-hound to 💦 happy & hydrated in 725 days … if I can do it, so can you.

All you need is :

• a strong desire & reason to change

• leverage – what you’ll lose if you don’t change

• a new habit [positive] to replace your addiction

• a vision – what your life will be like because you decided to change your lifestyle & the way your story is written

• a Support system + accountability

• a strong mindset which can be achieved through personal development

I was so excited to go to the Butcher’s Ball with my husband on Sunday.

But…I knew that I’d be in the environment that I used to love … music, food and alcohol. I purposely shared on social media first thing that morning that it was my 102nd sober Sunday to hold me accountable.

When we got there, the weather was right, the smell of the BBQ pits brought back old memories, there was alcohol everywhere and there was a Bloody Mary station. Bloody Mary’s on a Sunday used to be my jam. Then I saw a pineapple 🍍 with a fruity drink in it. It made me want one. Not the alcohol, but the cute drink in the pineapple.

It would have been so easy to drink. Not because I wanted or needed to be drunk, not because I miss alcohol or drinking, but out of habit and trying to recreate the feeling of connection, being carefree and uninhibited.

There was tons of new people. The best part was that it was people we didn’t know and didn’t know us. We had fun together and I had an incredible time sober. I realized that I can have fun at events where there is temptation and that I can enjoy myself with my husband and feel the same way without alcohol.

As the event went on and people had been drinking for 6+ hours, I was reminded of how good it was to be sober.

Some people think I shouldn’t talk so openly about my sobriety or past battles with drugs and alcohol or my mental illness… but I don’t care… talking about it holds me accountable, is therapeutic and helps connect me with others that help me stay on the path I’ve chosen because it’s best for me.