My Interview

I was contacted by TheNativeSociety.com and asked to give an interview.  TheNativeSociety.com serves to connect inspirational content with aspirational readers. They have over 3,000 interviews to date.

I wanted to share with my readers. [Click on this link to visit the Native Society and view my interview]

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What do I do best?
I feel that the thing I do best is I listen and my strength is that I have a good intuition when it comes to people. People come to me for advice because they know I will be honest and forthright with them. People know I have a heart that wants to help, so they often share their problems with me, looking for my insight into their situation.
Part of what makes me an excellent listener is my intuition, but I also ask a lot of questions whenever I am getting to know someone. My goal is never to just be an acquaintance, but to really get to know you and hopefully become one of your closest friends.

If you were to meet me, at first you might not think I am capable of being a good listener.  Living with A.D.D. since childhood I am known to be incredibly impulsive, by randomly blurting out whatever is on my mind. I am a chronic interrupter and almost always switch gears mid-conversation. You would think that these behaviors would impair my ability to listen. My mind seems to have a million thoughts flooding through it every minute. My mind is able to process several things at once, which is why I interrupt a lot.  I am ridiculously observant and attentive, for what appears to be someone who has a short attention span. I also have the gift of remembering things about people and things they have said.

Since I was a toddler, my memory and ability to observe even the slightest changes in an instant, always shocked & impressed adults. I consider myself a great people-person, although I have struggled with relationships my entire life, I believe due to being an adoptee, who was raised by narcissistic adoptive parents. I have always been able to observe people’s behaviors, mannerisms, and body language and be able to tell a lot about them just from observing them. It was part of my survival instincts so to speak. I have always been a very curious person, so it is quite common to find me, asking a stranger tons of questions, that may appear to others that I am interrogating them, but it is just my way of getting to know them, assessing them and the best part is, 99% of the time, people will tell you that I am easy to open up to and easy to trust. I remember every detail about someone’s life and stories they’ve told me. What my husband describes me as “getting into people’s heads”, is what I describe it as “drawing people out”. Strangers open up to me, tell me their troubles, secrets, stories they’ve never told out loud. I love to help people. I love to make them feel like they matter, are important and I love to help people.

What makes me the best version of myself?
I’ve been called stubborn and headstrong all my life. I used to think that was a bad thing, until I learned that what people labeled as stubborn and headstrong was really just RELENTLESSNESS. When the world is going left, I have always been the one to ask “WHY?” and if it didn’t make sense to me, I would go right. As a child I was asked why I always had to go against the grain. One would say that I marched to the beat of my own drum. I was called bossy. I didn’t understand what they meant when I was a child, but now as an adult I realize, that I was just paving my own way.  I was a leader, who people tried to force in a box. I am a rule follower UNLESS the rule makes no sense. If an explanation cannot be provided, then the rebel in me comes out. I have embraced who I am and trust my intuition and that it will lead me on the right path. My relentlessness has been my guiding force, that has kept me from giving up, no matter how hard the challenges were that I faced.

What are my aspirations?
Growing up my only aspiration was to “be happy”. As a young adult, I thought that happiness meant making others happy, but now as an adult who has put a lot of work in to my own personal growth, I now know that I am in control of my happiness and the first person who’s happiness, matters is my own. I aspire to live a long, happy and healthy life and to see my children succeed at being happy with who they are and doing what they love. Professionally, my goals are to publish 2 books, one about my life as a Korean Adoptee and one about my sobriety journey that began in October 2015. (I currently am working on the start of my first book). I plan on staying in the health and fitness industry as a coach, but want to expand what I do to include life-coaching, helping people get out of their own way, by discovering their limiting beliefs that have sabotaged their success and happiness. And my ultimate goal is to become a “Motivational Speaker”. I want to share my story and continue to inspire others to believe in themselves.


My Biggest Success?
My biggest success has been my sobriety. It took a lot of self-reflection, self-awareness, humility, and vulnerability to make the decision to get sober in October 2015, after years of dealing with many forms of addiction (including drug and unhealthy, codependent relationships). I have shared my journey from day 1 and it’s helped me stay accountable as well as help others who desire to become free from their addictions. It’s been a challenging yet eye-opening journey, but it has been worth every step.

My Most Challenging Moment?
I have had many challenging moments in my life, but one of the hardest things I have had to overcome was my alcohol addiction. I chose to get sober on October 25, 2015, which I should have done sooner. It has not been an easy journey and it has been full of obstacles that I didn’t foresee, but it has been 100% worth it. It’s been an uphill battle recreating my routines in a life absent of alcohol. After years of drugs and alcohol addiction, partying became part of my identity and my whole life began to revolve around it, so I have had to reestablish new routines, new friendships and get to know the real me. The blessings and rewards that have come with sobriety far outweigh the challenges that I have faced.


My Motto?
These are my CORE PRINCIPLES – the mantra’s that I live by, the non-negotiables in my life that have become my code of conduct as I have matured and found my purpose.

• Always look for the good in others & always look for the life lesson, no matter how hopeless a situation feels, because there is ALWAYS a silver lining.

• Be honest ALWAYS. Have integrity ALWAYS. ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING!

• Do not give up. Be RELENTLESS. Where there’s a will there’s a way. There isn’t anything you can’t fix!

• Forgive, even if you weren’t asked to. Always apologize!

• Continue to go left when the rest of the world is going right. There is nothing wrong with that! Be YOU, unapologetically YOU!
My Favorite People/Role Models?
As a child, I had no role models. I didn’t know anyone who was successful. I didn’t think that I would or could ever be successful. I didn’t have any role models,  until l I started working on myself in 2012. I started diving into “personal development’ books, courses, and seminars and started studying successful people. I have “mentors” who have greatly impacted my life. Becky Brossett, who introduced me to fitness and thinking BIG was my first role model, that I found at age 31 and to date, is still one of my favorite people. Well known, “motivational speakers” Craig Holiday and Dani Johnson are who made me a believer of investing in myself and helped me see that my past mistakes and failures did not inhibit my ability to succeed, only mind mindset stood in the way. Many other motivational speakers and authors, such as John C. Maxwell, Brene Brown and Charlene Johnson have had a great impact on my mindset and life. But my top 2 favorite people who I look up to the most are Tony Robbins and Carl Daikeler (CEO of Beachbody). These two men have integrity that I highly respect. Their hearts are incredible. They inspire me to be a better person.

My Favorite Places/Destinations?
I haven’t traveled the world, but I have been to many “tropical” destinations, such as Hawaii, Cancun, Cozumel, The Dominican Republic, The Grand Cayman, The Bahamas and Jamaica, but my all-time favorite vacation destination is Destin, Florida. It is where my husband & I honeymooned. It is where we have vacationed kidless and as a family. I love the water and sand & food there. I couldn’t live there, but I could easily vacation there several times a year.

My Favorite Products/Objects?
The one materialistic item that I would not want to live without are my iPhone and MacBook Air. It is how I stay connected with the world. They are tools that give me a voice and the ability to reach many worldwide, sharing my story. They are how I operate my business. And truth be told, I am a sucker for Apple products.

My Current Passion?
My passion has always been people: seeking out love & connection and helping others. For the past 5 1/2 years, fitness has become something I am deeply passionate about as well. My recreation for the majority of my adult life was centered around my social life, a life of partying. Since getting sober, I have found a passion for paddle boarding. I love being on the water. And I love fitness. I feel like paddle boarding is a great mix of relaxation and provides a great workout. I have become a little obsessed with it and tying new things, now that I am sober.

 

If you are reading this and would like to connect, you can find me at www.fb.com/coachmindyhord or www.ig.com/sobermommovement or www.youtube.com/mindyhord or by email at coachmhord@gmail.com.

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Surviving the Hurricane

I grew up in a sleepy little TEENY TINY coastal town in Northern California. I convinced myself that all there was to do there was “drink, do drugs, fuck, or fight” because it was such a small, boring town with nothing else to do.

I used to say that all the time. Isn’t it funny how self-absorbed we can be? We have beliefs that have been created by our own version of reality. We live by these belief systems and begin to believe our own BULLSHIT, while trying to convince others.

Whatever you believe comes true. Where you focus, energy flows. If you believe that all there is to do, is party, then you’ll never try to seek out any other options because you’ve convinced yourself that there isn’t any alternative.

In 2001, I moved to Texas. I moved to a town that was nearly 4 times the size of my hometown. Guess what everyone in this area believe? Most of the residents in our county will tell you that all there is to do is drink…….. because it’s a small boring town. Some will tell you it’s “just how things are done around here”. Talk to anyone who drinks frequently or has an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and they’ll tell you the same. I’ve met people who live in large cities who’ll tell you that all there is to do is drink.

When I moved to Texas, guess what? I gravitated towards the drinkers. That’s where I felt most at home. I was drunk at my first Texas wedding within the first week of my arrival & hit up my first club within the first month.

I was a partier, but after being a resident of Washington County, Texas for about a year, I have to say I was shocked at how much alcohol was consumed. There was alcohol served at every function and I mean EVERY function. Baby showers, baby’s baptisms, first communions, baby’s 1st birthday parties, you name it. It was “normal”.

Their “normal” became MY “normal”. You know how the saying goes, “If you can’t beat them, join them!”

This weekend we’re being held hostage in our house due to Hurricane Harvey. It’s predicted that our area is going to get about 20″ of rain. Houston and coastal towns like Rockport and Corpus Christi are getting hit HARD, by the heavy rain and high winds. [Keep Texas in your thoughts.].

I saw this on Facebook & I couldn’t help but think about the only 2 “Hurricane weekends” I’ve been through.

Growing up in California, there wasn’t any risk of tornadoes or hurricanes. In 2005 and 2008 I remember tropical storms that potentially threatened our area. My old employer was TERRIFIED of bad weather, so I always got time off whenever the weather seemed the least bit threatening. I remember those two “Hurricane Weekends”. All we did was PARTY for 3-4 days straight at friends. I remember in 2005 sitting outside getting wasted with a bunch of people, then hoping in a friends Winnebago and continuing drinking as we toured the county, with our kids. I remember in 2008, drinking all morning, afternoon and into the night for 3 days and playing wii at a friends house. I can’t remember any conversation that took place over those 2 weekends and don’t even hang out with any of those people anymore.

Hurricanes were just another reason to get wasted. I didn’t think about how thankful I was to be alive. I didn’t ever feel grateful for the fact that my boss paid me during those times he let me off because he wanted to make sure I was with my family and stayed safe. I didn’t think about how the Hurricanes could have came through our town and how unprepared we’d have been and unable to make the best decisions while intoxicated.

But now 671 days sober, I can sit back and reflect on how incredibly lucky I was to have never been harmed, or arrested during my irresponsible moments, that were all fueled by alcohol.

The one thing that sobriety has brought into my life is a greater sense of GRATITUDE & a higher level of self-awareness.

What is your definition of alcoholism and sobriety?

Over the summer, I made the decision to finally write a book, about my life. No sooner, did I set my intentions and shout it out to the universe, I won the book Sober As Fuck from Sarah Ordo on an Instagram contest. It was my first book I read on sobriety which inspired me even more. I highly recommend it. Once I started it, I couldn’t put it down.

To order click here:
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It is so funny how similar all of our stories are, yet how incredibly different they are, as well as our journey towards sobriety. It looks different and feels different for everyone.

My life has been full of struggle, some out of my control that began before I was even born, when I was a child and had no control and in my adult-life, caused by my self-destructive, self-sabotaging behavior. 

My struggles and pain weren’t for nothing. They have become my gift. I share my story openly, in attempts to hold myself accountable while helping others, who feel alone with their own struggles.

My book is still in phase I. I will be sharing my story and life of addiction and sobriety journey, but I also want to include data, collected from others in the Sober Community.

I’d love for you to help me in collecting data, by filling out this form. (It is 100% anonymous, but feel free to reach out to me, if you’d like to share your story or network with me for extra support. Whether you are already on your own path to sobriety or are sober-curious, I’d love to hear from you.) Click on this link to complete the survey.

Who would you be without your story?

I was contacted by @queensofsobrietyclub on Instagram and asked if she could feature my story on her page. Of course, I said yes.

It is funny how most of us hide our struggles with addiction and even deny that a problem exists. Then when we find the courage to make the changes necessary and share our truth, the shame starts to subside when we realize the power of our story.

I am always honored when someone wants to hear my story or gains inspiration from it.
Thank you to everyone who has supported me now or in the future.  I hope that sharing my story, my pain, my struggles, my truth will help at least one person.

To read my story, click on this link.

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Staying Sober in NOLA

When I started blogging in 2013, I had no idea what I was doing. I started blogging about my new career that got started when I started my own health & fitness journey in 2012. I blogged fairly regularly and then pretty much stopped in 2015, when my life TOTALLY & COMPLETELY fell apart. I decided to get sober on October 25, 2015 and I am not sure why, but I never thought to blog about it. I have openly shared my journey on Facebook, YouTube and Instagram, but never blogged about it. Looking back, I wish I had of. It would have been nice to be able to look back and read my thoughts and feelings each day. So I feel like, starting a blog dedicated to my sobriety journey NOW, 18+ months in, is like moving backward. But, it’s better to start NOW than never, right?

Last week, I traveled to New Orleans, Louisiana for an annual event that I have been attending since 2013, that is hosted by the company that I have been with since early 2012. These events used to be an excuse to PARTY. The party began days before we’d even leave. I’d go into “vaca-mode” aka “party-mode” 2 days before every event.

Last year, the event was in Nashville, Tennessee. I was 9 months sober. I had already made it through 1 major trip surrounded by alcohol and our reminders of our old lifestyle and passed with flying colors, so I wasn’t too concerned about falling off the wagon. We had rented a house, which was far removed from downtown Nashville and brought our son Rebel so the temptation to drink was decreased. On that particular trip, some of our friends and houseguests chose to drink and the drama that I witnessed because of it was a great reminder as to why I quit drinking.

This year was different. This year I was in New Orleans, which used to be my FAVORITE party city. It is a city where anything goes. It is one place where I could go where no one knew me and anything is acceptable. I knew I wouldn’t fall off the wagon. I remain committed to my sobriety. I had Rebel and my step-daughter Hailey with me & I was there with my support system. But being in that city brought back so many old memories and familiar feelings. As the days go by, it’s easier to stay committed to this journey, but at the same time, as the days go on, my mind starts playing tricks on me. Part of me fantasizes about being able to party again. Part of me wonders if enough time has passed. Part of me wonders if I have healed enough to have a healthy relationship with alcohol. Part of me wants to “feel normal”. But then the other part of me reminds myself that I have come so far and haven’t needed a drink to celebrate or cope in 18+ months that has been full of exciting, happy, sad and stressful moments. I have made it this far without alcohol and my life is better because of it. At the end of every gut-check moment, I remain steadfast to my commitment, but the internal conflict is at times, draining.

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I shared some of my feelings LIVE on my 628th day of my journey.

Today, the kids and I went to the movies to see the movie Girls Trip, which the whole entire movie takes place in New Orleans. Rebel loved seeing all of the places that we had just seen days ago that were so familiar (The Convention Center, The Mercedes-Benz Super Dome and some of the streets we had walked down together).

The movie was HILARIOUS (if you have a dirty sense of humor), but it seemed like the whole movie was based on getting “turnt up”, bar-hopping and boozing it up because that is WHAT you are EXPECTED to do on a “Girls Trip”. You never really notice these things until you become sober. It is very apparent that alcohol is publicized at an all-time high on TV and in movies. Alcohol is more predominant now, than it was 15 years ago. Alcoholism is normally and so ally acceptable, which makes it a hard addiction to beat, because it’s legal and EVERYWHERE.

Sober is the New Black

My name is Mindy. I started my first blog in 2013. I didn’t know what I was doing then and to be quite honest, I still don’t feel like I know what I am doing. The more I blogged, the more the words that had been trapped in my head flowed. The words began to flow more freely. As time went by, I became more comfortable with sharing my story, my life, my struggles, my insecurities, my dirty past.

As I shared more about my life and the self-discoveries I made on my path to become a better version of myself and heal, I was shocked at how many people reached out to me with similar stories, thanking me for sharing my truths.

Over the years many have suggested that I should write a book. I shrugged it off, every time it was brought up. Why? I didn’t feel qualified to write a book. I didn’t think anyone would read it. I didn’t know where to even start. I was scared & still am [terrified] about putting ALL of my life out ALL at once, for the world to judge me, for my kids to read.

I recently have taken the time to get clear and become specific about what I want for my future and what I want to accomplish in this lifetime. It became clear that I wanted to work towards becoming a motivational speaker, life coach, and author.

Once I put my vision on paper, the Universe started showing up and pointing me in the direction of my dreams.

I have been paralyzed with fear. Is it possible to have writer’s block before you even get started writing a book?

I post frequently (daily) on Social Media (IG: @Sobermommovement Facebook: Mindy Hord),  but I haven’t blogged in awhile, so I decided to get back in the swing of things. I decided to start a new blog, which will also serve as a place to connect with others who have been inspired by my journey towards sobriety and those who are looking for inspiration & support. I have given myself a 9-month deadline to get my first draft written. My book will be primarily about my journey to sobriety that began on October 25, 2015, but you will learn more about me and my life as a Korean Adoptee and my quest to become a better version of myself that prompted me to get sober.

If you are on your journey towards sobriety and looking for support or are looking for help in getting sober, please do not hesitate to reach out to me via email or social media.

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